Parenting coach Filippa Forsberg, who we introduced a few weeks ago is back. This time she will share her tips for how to make the holidays enjoyable for the whole family.
No Kids are Bad Kids
On the other hand, there’s bad behavior. A child can do bad things, but that doesn’t mean that the child is bad.
So, the next time you want to say that Santa only visits good children, try saying it in a different way. Do you need to threaten your kids with “Santa won’t come”? In the end, empty threats only lower children’s self-worth.
Prepare for Success
It’s difficult to plan things when things change at the last minute. Children don’t like change, and to help them deal with last minute changes, it’s good to let them know of your other plans, should things change.
For example, what would happen if a family member got sick? What would your options be? Let your children feel like they are part of the plan, so they don’t feel run over by changes. And when things do change, they might handle it better and view it positively.
Children Don’t Need to Hug their Relatives if They Don’t Want to
Do you have realistic expectations for the holidays?
For example, could you eat around the normal time? Could Santa visit before their normal bedtime? I completely understand that the holidays can make it difficult to stick to a routine. But, if we keep our normal routines in the back of our minds, we will subconsciously try to stick to the routines that are best for our children.
Let the Children Relax
But Get Moving!
Try going on a walk or have a quick stretch session where each family member has to come up with 3 stretches that you do together.
Say No to Things You Absolutely Don’t Want to Do and Listen to Your Body
I hope this can ease the stresses of the season so that you and your loved ones can enjoy your holidays together.